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Three Years of Marriage


As you may have seen on Instagram, yesterday marked our three-year anniversary! Sharing a few thoughts about marriage on this day has become a bit of a tradition on Something Pretty, and this year, we decided to come up with a few questions about marriage, our relationship, and each other. After separately typing up our answers, we ended up discussing the questions in person over dinner last night too. Along with sharing our answers with each other for the first time, we also dove into more detail, saying “hey remember this…” about our wedding and sharing some of our hopes for the next three years we hadn’t spoken much about yet. It made for such a sweet anniversary evening and an incredibly memorable dinner. I hope you enjoy reading this little Q&A as much as we enjoyed coming up with it!

What is your most vivid memory from our wedding day?
Dave: My most vivid memory is still our last dance alone before our sparkler exit. Hearing “La Vie en Rose” still brings me back to those last few moments of our wedding day.
Lisa: Being in the vintage car right after our ceremony. My dress took up practically the whole backseat and the smell of the peonies in my bouquet and the perfume I had picked out just for that day filled the car. The breeze wafted through the windows because there was no AC in such an old car, and it was such a beautiful day outside. We just laughed and kissed and shared stories from the morning, and seeing my best friend next to me with a wedding ring on his hand was the most peaceful, joyful feeling.

What is your favorite thing about your spouse?
Dave: This may surprise Lisa, but my favorite thing is seeing her be a mom to Charlie. It is my favorite thing in the world.
Lisa: Dave is my rock. I’m never afraid to go to him with a problem or a hurt or a confession because I know that even if he’s upset, he’ll love me and be kind to me. I knew he would be an amazing husband and an amazing father, and I was right–he is truly the core of our family.

What is something that most people don’t know about your spouse?
Dave: Lisa was kind of a punk rocker in high school, checkered Vans and all. I was as shocked as you are. To this day, she still says Something Corporate is her all-time favorite band.
Lisa: I don’t want to say Dave “peaked” in high school because I think he’s pretty amazing right now, but back in the day, he was prom king, soccer captain, and student council president. His crown is still in his old closet at his parents’ house, but we got rid of his poster-sized soccer photo a few years ago, sadly! ;)

What has been the most challenging season of marriage that we have worked through so far?
Dave: Well, I don’t want to say we’re “through” the challenge yet, but having Charlie and figuring out how to be parents has definitely been difficult. We couldn’t have gotten this far without consistently practicing patience with each other and relying on prayer and the sacraments. But I’m confident that challenges placed in Christ’s arms always lead you to better fulfill your vocation.
Lisa: I was an emotional wreck during the first three months of Charlie’s life. On top of adjusting to the demands of a newborn and the changes in our marriage, I was constantly convinced by the lie that I was a terrible mother. I cried inconsolably to Dave almost every night for weeks. It was my own spiritual battle so there was little he could do but pray for me, but not once did he turn me away, tell me to “get over it,” or downplay my pain. He listened, comforted me, and encouraged me every single time. It is the absolute best thing he has ever done for me.

What is one hope or dream you have for our next three years of marriage?
Dave: My hope is to grow our family and to grow in faith as a family. And my dream is to not have to study for the CPA anymore :)
Lisa: I would love to have another baby and to travel back to Austria, where we met, for our fifth anniversary in 2020!

What is your favorite thing about marriage?
Dave: I love being a package deal. Even when I’m out drinking with the guys, I always love thinking about coming home to her.
Lisa: Knowing that through our marriage, we are living our vocations and walking in the calling God specifically placed on our lives. The fact that we were made to do life and grow in holiness together, not apart, is breathtaking.

What is your top piece of marriage advice?
Dave: Winning an argument in marriage is like punching yourself in the face with a fist pump. You feel good for a second, then you remember that you just beat your other half. Humility goes a long way. Also, BUDGET.
Lisa: The priest who officiated our wedding shared this truth with us that has impacted our marriage from literally day one: human love runs out, but divine love never does. If we ask God for a portion of His divine love for our spouse, He will not refuse us. That’s how a marriage can last forever.

All photos by the inimitable Ryan Ray. See all our wedding recaps here!






  1. Allison says:

    This is so great! I loved reading more about your relationship and even receiving a little sneak peek into your life together. It’s stunningly beautiful. Cheers!

  2. Emma says:

    Your dress is so beautifully timeless! I love that you guys got to have a memorable time answering these questions. My 4th anniversary is coming up on the 17th so I might borrow this idea!
    Happy Anniversary!

  3. Catherine Caprara says:

    One of the most beautiful and authentic posts yet! And that was hard to beat ???? love you dearly and grateful for your example

  4. Mary says:

    Love this! Congratulations on three years!! And I think we need to chat about that post partum period. The hardest times of our marriage for me too!

    • Lisa says:

      Thank you! We definitely should–I feel far enough out of it that I can look back with at least a little bit more wisdom now!

  5. Em says:

    OBVIOUSLY my favorite answers are for the last question: Dave’s because budget, and Lisa’s because, as you know, that is a line that has impacted my life in a big way ever since hearing it at your wedding, too! Happy anniversary to one of my favorite couples!

    • Lisa says:

      Haha! Yes, this does not surprise me a bit :) Few things make me happier than knowing our ceremony impacted our beloved friends’ marriages in a small, positive way, so I never get tired of hearing that! xoxo

  6. Kristen says:

    I wish high school Lisa and high school Dave could meet????Also wedding dress goalsssss stilllll

    • Lisa says:

      I found the notebook where Dana took notes about all the dresses I tried on the other day and had a good giggle–this one was such a winner from the start :)

  7. Dana says:

    Happy anniversary!!!! Love looking up to y’all every day in every way!

  8. Kristina says:

    A little late to the party BUT…happy anniversary!!! I aww-ed and ahh-ed over all of your answers and there is only one thing that comes to mind: #couplegoals :D Reading your blog and getting a glimpse into your life and marriage is so inspiring and encouraging. Thank you for sharing, Lisa!

    • Lisa says:

      Thank you, Kristina! I can assure you we are very far from perfect and still have SO much to learn about marriage, but I’m proud of how far we’ve come so far! :)


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