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When Do You Send Snail Mail?


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I head out to the mailbox every afternoon, often with Azelie on my hip and Charlie running after me in his bare feet. Over the past few weeks, after shuffling through some catalogs and junk mail, I’ve been delighted to find a few letters, with my name on the envelopes. This doesn’t happen often, and the fact that I was the recipient of multiple letters within a few weeks’ time was a happy surprise. Maybe that is why the action resonated with me especially deeply. The writers could have easily sent a quick text or called me on the phone. Instead, they took the time to dig out stationery, envelopes, and stamps. They sat down and pondered what they wanted to say–always a slower process without a delete button just a thumb movement away. Most of all, they felt I was worth taking the time to do all of this for.

I have a confession for you, friends: I am terrible about writing handwritten notes. I find this ironic on many levels: my unabashed love for Christmas cards, how much I enjoy receiving snail mail, the fact that I used to work for a company that literally mentioned handwritten notes in their manifesto…the unfortunate list goes on. As such, I expect this might be surprising to some of you! Truly, it’s something I have long wished I was better at prioritizing. Maybe, I thought, as I folded the letters and put them back in their envelopes, writing handwritten notes–something I’ve long appreciated but never committed to doing much myself–could have the power to make the special people in my life feel just as cherished.

I recently fell down the rabbit hole of Basic Invite‘s personalized stationery and found it was exactly the push I needed to pick up a pen. From wedding invitations to notecards, they have some of the most customizable offerings I have come across online. Choose from hundreds of designs and fonts, over 180 colors (the color of every design element can be changed), and over 40 envelope colors to create just the right stationery for your collection. The delicate florals and classic feel of the Elegant Blossoms, Antique Frame, and Dainty Wreath designs caught my eye and I couldn’t be happier with how they turned out. With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, I’m hoping to kick off a letter-writing (valentine-writing? :)) habit by penning a snail mail letter a day for the next two weeks!

Green mockneck sweaterFloral personalized stationeryWreath monogram stationeryBlush braided headbandClassic personalized stationery

Are you a letter writer? When do you usually opt for snail mail over another form of communication? You know Christmas cards are dear to my heart, but I also LOVE sending paper invitations for special events. I’ve never sent out a baby arrival announcement, but am always delighted to receive them–what a treasure for a baby book or keepsake box! Basic Invite’s are lovely–they even have Christmas birth announcements and birth announcements for twins that are adorable. I’d love to hear about your favorite mail to send and receive!






  1. Marisa says:

    I’ve made a goal to send out birthday cards & some anniversary cards to friends and family in the mail this year; usually I send out thank you cards as needed + Christmas cards, and the occasional random happy mail.

    I really love the idea of writing people around Valentines/Galentines day though :)

    • Lisa says:

      I definitely want to get better about birthday cards! I had high hopes for writing them at the beginning of each month last year, but it didn’t last long…I might need to start attempt #2!

  2. Ashley says:

    One of my goals is to send snail mail for birthdays, special occasions, and just because. I actually plan on doing it quarterly because it takes me 45 minutes from start to finish – and all my husband and I have to remember to do is take it to the mail box.

    Our first little one is due in May, so TBD on how that changes in the future :)

    You chose beautiful stationary!

    • Lisa says:

      Writing notes quarterly in one fell swoop is SUCH a great idea! Congratulations on your pregnancy–so exciting!! :)

  3. Cait says:

    I rarely send digital mail unless it is in response to a previous email that someone had sent, if I am sending a link of some sort, or if I am sending a digital gift like a gift card or groupon. My mom is from Louisiana and after every Christmas, birthday, graduation, Easter, (anything!) we were not allowed to open or use the gifts we had been gifted, including money, until we finished writing thank you notes to each person. She really instilled in us how important that is to do. It felt a bit like a chore growing up, but as an adult now writing notes is one of my favorite things to do, and I try to send a card for every birthday, major holiday, and any significant life events my friends have! It’s something I’ll try to instill in my own children one day :)

    • Lisa says:

      That was so, so wise of your mom! Honestly, I need to put that habit into practice myself as an adult! ;)

  4. Mary says:

    I love sending Christmas cards and also sending hand written thank you notes!

  5. Nicole says:

    I LOVE snail mail and try to send birthday cards for my friends and family each year. Also, my sister and I have been having “Card Wars” for the past year where we take turns sending each other the funniest card we can find. We don’t really keep track of whose is funnier but it is so much fun and we both look forward to getting the next card in the mail!

    • Lisa says:

      That is so fun!! I do always seek out the longest, sappiest birthday cards I can find to send to my brother and we always get a kick out of that!

  6. Emily says:

    I am also not very good about this! Yet, like you mentioned, when I’m the recipient of a handwritten note, I feel so elated and appreciated. Sometimes I wonder if we kept blank cards and envelopes and stamps in a box by our dining room table, whether I’d just pick some out and write to a friend every now and then… Another habit that I’m not quite sure how to make stick, but I know I should push myself a little and try.

    • Lisa says:

      I am with you! My stationery and stamps are all on our kitchen desk right now, next to my planner. I’m hoping seeing them every day reminds me to use them!

  7. Colleen says:

    Writing letters to friends across the country has been very dear to my heart since spending a summer at LifeTeen’s Camp Covecrest. We were encouraged to write everyone who had supported our summer mission. In this process, I developed a love for written letters and the power of putting in writing how you care for someone! My favorite letters are just because ones because they feel the most authentic!

    I’m always looking for beautiful cards – can’t wait to check out Basic Invite!!

    • Lisa says:

      Oh, that is so beautiful! I love the way you took that “assignment” and applied it to your life outside of camp. I’m inspired by you! :)

  8. Teresa says:

    I love this post! I am a HUGE fan of snail mail, and pretty stationary is one of my most favorite of life’s little luxuries. I have bookmarked this blog post and will definitely be returning to it next time I need to order a new stash… or make a baby announcement! Ha! I didn’t send announcements for my first two, but maybe I will if a third joins us some day :) Love Basic Invite’s designs!

  9. Dana says:

    I’m as good about sending out random snail mail as I used to be, but I am very good at sending birthday cards and thank you cards! A happy habit that emerged when I was bored in grad school and missing so many people!

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