Since becoming parents, Dave and I have wholeheartedly embraced the “at-home date,” which I mentioned here (and have another post about coming up closer to Valentine’s Day). Our first real date happened when Charlie was three months old and we were in Texas at my parents’ house. We headed into downtown Houston to see a Degas exhibit at the museum and then have lunch–it was magical and so much fun, but it wasn’t for another two months or so before we went out alone together again. And, once again, we were kind of giddy about it (sorry, Dave, for describing you as giddy on the internet :)). As much as we had come to enjoy our at-home dates, we realized there was something special about getting dressed up and heading out somewhere alone together. It’s not always easy to make space in the budget for activities/food + babysitting, but we have been reassured time and time again that we need it. It’s not a splurge–it’s an investment that breathes life into our marriage, and is anything more worth it than that?
Last summer, we made a list of fun monthly date ideas that we more or less stuck to for the remainder of the year, so I set a goal this month to do the same thing! I had a few requests to share the ideas, so here they are…some of them are specific places or activities we want to try, while others are open-ended. Best of all, they’re all seasonally inspired and cover a variety of price-points.
January: Bowling and pizza (at an actual pizzeria, not takeout)
February: Drinks and desserts at Bittersweet (a cocktails/desserts/coffee lounge in Raleigh)
March: Dave’s birthday date, TBD (high likelihood of an Irish pub)
April: Lisa’s birthday date, TBD (high likelihood of French food and rooftop drinks)
May: Our anniversary date, TBD
June: Outdoor movie
July: Mini golf and Goodberry’s frozen custard
August: Drinks on the patio at Watts and Ward (a Prohibition era-inspired bar in Raleigh)
September: Long weekend trip alone (I’ve never been away from Charlie overnight so may need some pep talks from y’all closer to this!)
October: Daytime date, a hike to admire the changing leaves and trip to a coffee shop
November: Progressive dinner in Durham (there are so many places in Durham I want to try, we figured this would be a good way to check off a few!)
December: Christmas-themed date in Houston, TBD
A few more ideas from 2017 that we enjoyed are an evening baseball game and fireworks, a shooting range and barbecue (guess whose idea that one was!), and drinks and charcuterie outside at Whiskey Kitchen, shown in the photos above.
Friends with kids, how do you make dates happen? Do you have any favorite activities to do together on date nights?